Childhood Trauma Therapy
What is childhood trauma?
Did you ever feel like you didn’t have enough food, had to wear dirty clothes, or no one was there to keep you safe?
Did you lose a parent because they left, passed away, or stopped being in your life?
Did you live with someone who was really sad all the time, had big feelings they couldn’t handle, or tried to hurt themselves?
Did someone in your home use too much alcohol or drugs, even ones a doctor gave them?
Did the grown-ups in your home ever yell, hit, or hurt each other?
Did someone you lived with go to jail or prison?
Did a grown-up in your home ever say mean things to you, like calling you names or making you feel small?
Did a grown-up in your home ever hit, kick, or hurt your body?
Did you feel like no one in your family loved you or thought you were special?
Did someone ever touch your private parts in a way you didn’t want?
If you answered yes to even one question, you have experienced childhood trauma. This creates developmental changes in the brain that make it difficult for you to regulate emotions. You are not too much or too sensitive — your life was.
How to heal childhood trauma ?
Childhood trauma can be healed through somatic experiencing. The body holds every painful experience in its cells. What we don't realize is that hurt is chemical. When we feel emotions such as anger, sadness, loneliness, guilt, resentment, fear, etc., our brain releases these chemicals into our body. When we don't learn how to observe them and nurture them, they become our natural state of being.
This deeply affects the way we sleep and eat in life.
The body becomes overly attentive to every human being in our life, and we are constantly living in extreme stress. Every facial expression in our peer group is noticed and internalized.
The body becomes overly attentive to every human being in our life, and we are constantly living in extreme stress. Every facial expression in our peer group is noticed and internalized.
Stage One: Safety and Stabilization
This means helping you feel safe inside and outside, building a trusting relationship with your therapist, and learning how trauma and hurtful things in life have affected you.You will learn how to take care of yourself, stay away from things that harm you, and find ways to feel better when big emotions come up.You’ll start to understand your feelings more and learn new skills to help you feel calmer and stronger.Over time, you’ll feel more in control and more confident.
Stage Two: Trauma Processing
After you feel safe and stable, it’s time to talk about and understand the deeper pain from what happened.This part can feel sad because you are remembering hard things and letting go of the hurt.You’ll work on changing the meaning or untrue thoughts you may believe about yourself and start building kinder, more helpful ones.You’ll also learn how to deal with the tough feelings and reactions that come after trauma, so they don’t take over your life anymore.
Stage Three: Re-connection
As Judith Herman (1992) said, this is the time to start feeling close to others again and get back to a normal life.In this part, the counsellor listens and supports you while you try out new ways of thinking, acting, and building better experiences.
3 stages in Childhood Trauma
Childhood Trauma Therapist in Surrey,BC
Hi! I am Jasleen.
Childhood Trauma can leave you feeling worthless and convincing you that your life should be spent hiding from the world and others. I founded Quantum Counselling to be a place for you to find freedom from your past.
Through in-depth therapy for childhood trauma, we will help you heal that voice that never shuts up about how awful you are so that you can finally pursue the life you always wanted. Your life doesn’t have to be consumed by the depression that results from trauma. Healing your nervous system will help you feel content and happy with yourself again.
Come Home To Yourself
Childhood Trauma can rob you of a life of contentment and joy. It causes you to have low energy,procrastinate the things you want to do, and make you feel completely exhausted. This part of you is convinced that your faults make up the totality of who you are, and what people see often comes from some type of trauma - big or small.
Whatever it was - you were compelled to do more, and that somehow doing nothing was wrong. Your life became all about high achieving. You internalized the judgment and learned to treat yourself the same way they treated you. It may feel impossible now, but your life doesn’t have to be controlled by chasing the next dream in order to push down shame and guilt.
You can feel secure and confident enough to put yourself out there and feel safe again. You can love yourself. Childhood Trauma counseling can help you get there.
Quantum Counselling Approach To Childhood Trauma
Through depth therapy for Childhood Abuse, we can help you experience healing from the wounds that led you to where you are today. We will look at past and present experiences that reinforce the narrative that you have to do more. You can grieve the love you never received but desperately needed. You can work through the barriers that keep you stuck in survival mode.
Taking the time to process the past unconscious dynamics that allow your inner critic to have so much power will release you from its grip. That faint voice that believes in yourself can grow stronger and louder.
At Quantum Counselling, we believe Childhood Trauma Therapy should center your thoughts and feelings. We know that it can be hard to take up space and reveal these deeper parts of yourself, especially to a stranger. BUT we want to help you break past these barriers and finally receive the support you have been desperately wanting but have been too afraid to ask your friends and family for.
